This comes from a clueless young guy about to finish college who wants a reality check from you successful older guys. I REPEAT I REPEAT, this is NOT JUST about getting girls or getting laid.
I won't repeat too much of the story but this is something I have been thinking a lot about in the past 2 years or so. Growing up, I had an unstable childhood that involved a good bit of moving around. It didn't hit me until college when I noticed that so many of the top tier guys not only had the girls, but had the friends. Friends they could go out to bars with, party with, and take vacation/spring breaks with. All in all, these guys had that social circle which consisted of some cute girls and guys like them that they could do fun things with. Of course, for anyone familiar with Greek Life, it gave you all of that.
Ya, seeing the "Tacky Christmas", themed parties, formals, and other things made me very miserable in that time of college and deep down inside, had me wishing that something like that existed after college to help me make up for lost time and work at something.
I know that obviously most guys in college didn't have that but the 20% man usually did have a group of friends and a social circle consisting of his friends and cute girls.
Now it does seem like social life, friendships, and all of that peak in college (though I am too young to confirm that) where the opportunities are endless but I have absolutely no idea on how this works in the real world. By this I mean the rest of your 20s and your 30s even. At times I wonder if what I want (a decent sized social circle full of cute girls and cool guys, people I can occasionally chill with for parties and special occasions like New Years) is just some fantasy.
I read a good bit of material from guys that know their stuff when it comes to girls and dating, it does seem like a lot of these guys are lonely and as someone who has been an outsider his whole life, at times I wish I had a solid circle of friends to occasionally chill with, head out to bars with, party with, and enjoy fun events with.
What I wonder is if my desires for social life (that includes friends, NOT JUST GIRLS!!!) are unrealistic.
So what is the truth about social life as you get older? What are some desirable scenarios that are realistically achievable?
I won't repeat too much of the story but this is something I have been thinking a lot about in the past 2 years or so. Growing up, I had an unstable childhood that involved a good bit of moving around. It didn't hit me until college when I noticed that so many of the top tier guys not only had the girls, but had the friends. Friends they could go out to bars with, party with, and take vacation/spring breaks with. All in all, these guys had that social circle which consisted of some cute girls and guys like them that they could do fun things with. Of course, for anyone familiar with Greek Life, it gave you all of that.
Ya, seeing the "Tacky Christmas", themed parties, formals, and other things made me very miserable in that time of college and deep down inside, had me wishing that something like that existed after college to help me make up for lost time and work at something.
I know that obviously most guys in college didn't have that but the 20% man usually did have a group of friends and a social circle consisting of his friends and cute girls.
Now it does seem like social life, friendships, and all of that peak in college (though I am too young to confirm that) where the opportunities are endless but I have absolutely no idea on how this works in the real world. By this I mean the rest of your 20s and your 30s even. At times I wonder if what I want (a decent sized social circle full of cute girls and cool guys, people I can occasionally chill with for parties and special occasions like New Years) is just some fantasy.
I read a good bit of material from guys that know their stuff when it comes to girls and dating, it does seem like a lot of these guys are lonely and as someone who has been an outsider his whole life, at times I wish I had a solid circle of friends to occasionally chill with, head out to bars with, party with, and enjoy fun events with.
What I wonder is if my desires for social life (that includes friends, NOT JUST GIRLS!!!) are unrealistic.
So what is the truth about social life as you get older? What are some desirable scenarios that are realistically achievable?