So I'm relatively new here. I've jumped on a couple times to browse around but never dedicated any real time here until recently. Everyone here seemed friendly and eager to help so I figured it was a worth a shot.
Ok so my main problem is that I need to make some major changes to my life but I don't really know where to begin or how exactly to change them so I thought that I'd just lay all my problems out for you and hopefully someone here will point me in the right direction.
*deep breath* Ok so I'm 22 years and still a virgin. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and it wasn't anything special believe me. I still live with my parents who insist on treating me like I'm still in highschool. I neither have the funds or the job to move out in the immediate future but I have been thinking about going back to school and living on campus. The job I have doesn't take up to much time but doesn't net me enough pay to live the kind of life I want. I have no social life. I only have one friend and he's really not that much of a friend if I'm going to be honest. I have serious trouble talking to anyone I'm not very comfortable around and even with them I still struggle to find things to say. My anxiety during these situations only make the situation worse. Needless to say this effects my love life, but my real problem is making friends, as I can seem to make an impression on people who aren't forced to spend a lot of time with me, although those people seem to have somewhat of a positive view of me. This social isolation only seems to make me degress and be less social. I've tried "getting out there" with girls and seemed to be making progress in the whole approaching them part until it came time to start asking for numbers. Not a single girl out maybe 20-25 would give me their numbers. I still don't know why and if anyone has any has any ideas why I struck out 20-25 times in a row please tell me. This really hit my confidence hard and made me almost stop trying all together. I don't consider myself a bad looking guy, in fact I get complimented on my looks often enough to know I'm at least above average. I workout a lot and have a pretty well toned body, or at least I'm getting there. My height is what I think is the biggest factor (I'm 5,4) and is really a source of insecurity for me.
In short, for people who don't feel like reading all that, I'm looking to change these things specifically in defending order of importance to me.
• Have a social life (make some real friends and learn how to talk to people in general)
•Have a sex life (learn to talk to any woman I want and lose this god damn v-card)
•Get rid of my anxiety, both social and in life (this would be higher if I didn't think that my anxiety stemmed from the first to)
•Get the fuck out of my parents house (seriously it's time)
•Get a better job with some real income (this'll help with the above)
•Get more attractive (this means getting more ripped and, if at all possible, taller( like seriously if anyone knows any real ways to shoot up just an inch or two, you will change my life)).
•Figure out why those 20-25 girls didn't take my number (seriously anyone got any ideas, am I too short?)
Ok that's all of it, all of my inner most insecurities splattered all over the Internet. Any and all help is welcomed and appreciated and if you have any other questions just ask. Thanks!
-Dragomax Out!
Ok so my main problem is that I need to make some major changes to my life but I don't really know where to begin or how exactly to change them so I thought that I'd just lay all my problems out for you and hopefully someone here will point me in the right direction.
*deep breath* Ok so I'm 22 years and still a virgin. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and it wasn't anything special believe me. I still live with my parents who insist on treating me like I'm still in highschool. I neither have the funds or the job to move out in the immediate future but I have been thinking about going back to school and living on campus. The job I have doesn't take up to much time but doesn't net me enough pay to live the kind of life I want. I have no social life. I only have one friend and he's really not that much of a friend if I'm going to be honest. I have serious trouble talking to anyone I'm not very comfortable around and even with them I still struggle to find things to say. My anxiety during these situations only make the situation worse. Needless to say this effects my love life, but my real problem is making friends, as I can seem to make an impression on people who aren't forced to spend a lot of time with me, although those people seem to have somewhat of a positive view of me. This social isolation only seems to make me degress and be less social. I've tried "getting out there" with girls and seemed to be making progress in the whole approaching them part until it came time to start asking for numbers. Not a single girl out maybe 20-25 would give me their numbers. I still don't know why and if anyone has any has any ideas why I struck out 20-25 times in a row please tell me. This really hit my confidence hard and made me almost stop trying all together. I don't consider myself a bad looking guy, in fact I get complimented on my looks often enough to know I'm at least above average. I workout a lot and have a pretty well toned body, or at least I'm getting there. My height is what I think is the biggest factor (I'm 5,4) and is really a source of insecurity for me.
In short, for people who don't feel like reading all that, I'm looking to change these things specifically in defending order of importance to me.
• Have a social life (make some real friends and learn how to talk to people in general)
•Have a sex life (learn to talk to any woman I want and lose this god damn v-card)
•Get rid of my anxiety, both social and in life (this would be higher if I didn't think that my anxiety stemmed from the first to)
•Get the fuck out of my parents house (seriously it's time)
•Get a better job with some real income (this'll help with the above)
•Get more attractive (this means getting more ripped and, if at all possible, taller( like seriously if anyone knows any real ways to shoot up just an inch or two, you will change my life)).
•Figure out why those 20-25 girls didn't take my number (seriously anyone got any ideas, am I too short?)
Ok that's all of it, all of my inner most insecurities splattered all over the Internet. Any and all help is welcomed and appreciated and if you have any other questions just ask. Thanks!
-Dragomax Out!