Right!! Hey guys. I had a colleague who started working in the shop last August. Didn't really talk to her much, just the occasional hello and some advice on paying child maintainance as we both have kids. Didn't get the flirty vibe from her or anything. Anyway she was engaged and had been with his er boyfriend about 6 years, he's the father of her child . Fast forward 2 months to October and I went in to work one morning as normal as anything. I said morning to her and asked how she was and she lifted her hand up and she didn't have an engagement ring on!! I asked if she was ok and if she needed to talk then she can come and chat to me to get things off her chest. Anyway I said to her I'll buy her a coffee at lunch to cheer her up!!! I swear guys I meant it in the most gentlemanly way possible!! I had no intentions to get with her whatsoever. She had a friend who I work with who was stoking her fire a bit by saying we should hook up.That's when my life for the last 8 months had took a nose dive!!
We was messaging on Halloween night and she said she was out with her brothers in the pub. She seemed drunk as her texts were fucked and nonsense. I messaged her and it didn't go through. Even the next day it had been received. Anyway a come Monday she came in to work and showed me her phone that was all smashed up. She said her and her brothers got in to a fight with some other guys in the pub. Didn't think much of it. Anyways we started getting closer. And flirting a lot more. We decided to have sex early November. It lasted about 4 hours haha. Her ex boyfriend was still around as he was living in her flat while she stayed with her kid at her mums. That's where I used to go. To her mums. One evening me her and her brother was sitting there in her mums front room and her ex boyfriend knocked on the door. She told me to hide in the bedroom so I did as I didn't want any hassle. I'm fuckin 31 years old!! I don't need to be running to a bedroom. He stayed for half hour or so. I heard him say to her she looked good and her reply was a very nice thank you. Anyway I got the hump and said I'm going and she accused me of being pathetic. I was on my way to the bus stop when her brother messaged me and said she wants me to come back. So I did. She was laying in bed under the covers like she'd been crying. We was talking for a bit and we both said we had strong feelings for each Other. She said she loved me and I felt the same. Anyways a week before Christmas me her and her brother go shopping for the day. She saw a bracelet and I wanted to buy it for her. She said no and we got in to a little argument. Next morning I go to leave and the atmosphere don't seem right. I say bye and buy the time I get to the bus stop we was arguing via text. She was like I don't get her and stuff. Anyway she ended it. I was gutted over xmas felt really horrible. I tried to talk to her but she said she loved her ex boyfriend and stuff. Her brother actually told me she rolled in to her mums that evening she broke up with me with her ex boyfriend!! She then told that friend at work I was weird and that she still loved her ex. One day at work she goes to the toilet crying. Our friend goes in to cheer her up and find out what's wrong and she told our friend that her ex is leaving the country. I didn't know she said that at the time. After New Years she was texting me and said she went to the toilet and cried because she made a mistake with breaking up with me and that she told her ex that she loved me. We was on and off for a few months. She was always acting shifty with her phone and other stuff and I could never trust her. I was getting more and more depressed and paranoid. After the 6th time of trying to make it work I told her I don't want nothing to do with her anymore. She said she felt the same. But continued to flirt with me and wanted me to do it back. She said she liked the banter with me!! Anyways I distanced myself from her a couple of months ago and she found out that another girl in work was in to me. She started saying I better not get with another girl from work or she'll get angry!! She dropped her hours to only Saturday's and never really showed up. I haven't spoken to her for nearly 2 months. She's been off sick nearly that long and I just found out yesterday that her mum phoned the shop and told management she won't be coming back and that she's in hospital?? I'm really sorry for the long post. There's so much more that's happened than what I've wrote. But will take all night to write it. We decided to try and just be fuck buddies after new year but she kept saying she liked me being at her flat and she wouldn't let me leave for 3 days then all of a sudden she would go cold and I wouldn't hear much from her!! She craved attention even saying it was easy to get from her ex when we were having problems!!! How could I trust her when she craves attention 24-7 from anyone she can get it from??? What does this whole thing sound like to you??? My friend in work seems to think maybe she's not well in the head?? Maybe I was for the use of?? I didn't see the point if she weren't interested to carry on acting the way she did when I was at hers!?! The thing is is at first I really liked this girl and it seemed like we got on but looking back it seems to be all a lie?? She said she would fix my trust issues at the start but I've never been with anyone who I've not trusted as much as her!!!
Sorry for the long post guys, hope someone can chime in. Cheers. Oh also throughout our time together I kept asking her why her and her ex broke up and what their relationship was like and she used to tell me she didn't wanna talk about it because it was hard to talk about. My take on it is that she cheated on him and he found out. She constantly lies about everything for attention. Even telling me her brothers dad had a epileptic fit and had to go hospital and when I next saw her brother I asked him if he's dad was ok. He said what do you mean and I was about to say your dad was in hospital but she told me to shush before I said anything!!I think she's a player and craves attention from whoever she can get it from. She flirts with everyone she can and that was hard to see while I was working with her. To be honest I think she's a very lost and confused young lady who needs to sort her life out before she ends up very lonely. Sorry again for long post
We was messaging on Halloween night and she said she was out with her brothers in the pub. She seemed drunk as her texts were fucked and nonsense. I messaged her and it didn't go through. Even the next day it had been received. Anyway a come Monday she came in to work and showed me her phone that was all smashed up. She said her and her brothers got in to a fight with some other guys in the pub. Didn't think much of it. Anyways we started getting closer. And flirting a lot more. We decided to have sex early November. It lasted about 4 hours haha. Her ex boyfriend was still around as he was living in her flat while she stayed with her kid at her mums. That's where I used to go. To her mums. One evening me her and her brother was sitting there in her mums front room and her ex boyfriend knocked on the door. She told me to hide in the bedroom so I did as I didn't want any hassle. I'm fuckin 31 years old!! I don't need to be running to a bedroom. He stayed for half hour or so. I heard him say to her she looked good and her reply was a very nice thank you. Anyway I got the hump and said I'm going and she accused me of being pathetic. I was on my way to the bus stop when her brother messaged me and said she wants me to come back. So I did. She was laying in bed under the covers like she'd been crying. We was talking for a bit and we both said we had strong feelings for each Other. She said she loved me and I felt the same. Anyways a week before Christmas me her and her brother go shopping for the day. She saw a bracelet and I wanted to buy it for her. She said no and we got in to a little argument. Next morning I go to leave and the atmosphere don't seem right. I say bye and buy the time I get to the bus stop we was arguing via text. She was like I don't get her and stuff. Anyway she ended it. I was gutted over xmas felt really horrible. I tried to talk to her but she said she loved her ex boyfriend and stuff. Her brother actually told me she rolled in to her mums that evening she broke up with me with her ex boyfriend!! She then told that friend at work I was weird and that she still loved her ex. One day at work she goes to the toilet crying. Our friend goes in to cheer her up and find out what's wrong and she told our friend that her ex is leaving the country. I didn't know she said that at the time. After New Years she was texting me and said she went to the toilet and cried because she made a mistake with breaking up with me and that she told her ex that she loved me. We was on and off for a few months. She was always acting shifty with her phone and other stuff and I could never trust her. I was getting more and more depressed and paranoid. After the 6th time of trying to make it work I told her I don't want nothing to do with her anymore. She said she felt the same. But continued to flirt with me and wanted me to do it back. She said she liked the banter with me!! Anyways I distanced myself from her a couple of months ago and she found out that another girl in work was in to me. She started saying I better not get with another girl from work or she'll get angry!! She dropped her hours to only Saturday's and never really showed up. I haven't spoken to her for nearly 2 months. She's been off sick nearly that long and I just found out yesterday that her mum phoned the shop and told management she won't be coming back and that she's in hospital?? I'm really sorry for the long post. There's so much more that's happened than what I've wrote. But will take all night to write it. We decided to try and just be fuck buddies after new year but she kept saying she liked me being at her flat and she wouldn't let me leave for 3 days then all of a sudden she would go cold and I wouldn't hear much from her!! She craved attention even saying it was easy to get from her ex when we were having problems!!! How could I trust her when she craves attention 24-7 from anyone she can get it from??? What does this whole thing sound like to you??? My friend in work seems to think maybe she's not well in the head?? Maybe I was for the use of?? I didn't see the point if she weren't interested to carry on acting the way she did when I was at hers!?! The thing is is at first I really liked this girl and it seemed like we got on but looking back it seems to be all a lie?? She said she would fix my trust issues at the start but I've never been with anyone who I've not trusted as much as her!!!
Sorry for the long post guys, hope someone can chime in. Cheers. Oh also throughout our time together I kept asking her why her and her ex broke up and what their relationship was like and she used to tell me she didn't wanna talk about it because it was hard to talk about. My take on it is that she cheated on him and he found out. She constantly lies about everything for attention. Even telling me her brothers dad had a epileptic fit and had to go hospital and when I next saw her brother I asked him if he's dad was ok. He said what do you mean and I was about to say your dad was in hospital but she told me to shush before I said anything!!I think she's a player and craves attention from whoever she can get it from. She flirts with everyone she can and that was hard to see while I was working with her. To be honest I think she's a very lost and confused young lady who needs to sort her life out before she ends up very lonely. Sorry again for long post
