Chris, I've been a big fan of your blog for a while now and one of your videos that really hit home with me was the one about lonely Saturday nights while you were at the University of Florida. Now I've also read your series about college but I am well out of the school scene now so that is all in the past. The reason your videos hit home with me is because I was the in same exact situation myself back in college.
Big division 1 school, huge social scene, and somewhat of a similar culture to University of Florida (PM me for name of the school if you're curious). Unlike you, I actually did put myself out there but was mainly snubbed by the party people, cool guys, and the crowds that had the hot girls running in them.
Now even though college is in the past, I still have a tough time recovering. I find myself being very validation seeking not just in terms of girls but also in terms of people in general. Like I have this chip on my shoulder to where I feel like have to get my own social clique going, get hot girls, go to nice parties, and show em whose boss. Just getting laid isn't enough for me, I know that hasn't fixed the issue. I call it an obsession with being popular, being recognized as cool, and knowing that I am in a certain hierarchy alongside other men who are winners in this game.
The thing is, I know this isn't the answer since after school is over, people don't really care about the whole who's popular thing anymore (not only surprised but also blind sided by the fact they did in college to be honest). Even though it would seem the popularity contests are over now that we're no longer in school or college, I wish they weren't over so I could get another chance at them and really have my turn at the top of the hierarchy.
It's been an issue that's consumed me for quite some time since graduating college, been obsessed with the status and popularity thing which I know isn't healthy.
My question to you, Chris, is how did you recover? What advice would you give to guys who went through the same experience in college and want to recover to the point it doesn't really haunt them anymore?
Big division 1 school, huge social scene, and somewhat of a similar culture to University of Florida (PM me for name of the school if you're curious). Unlike you, I actually did put myself out there but was mainly snubbed by the party people, cool guys, and the crowds that had the hot girls running in them.
Now even though college is in the past, I still have a tough time recovering. I find myself being very validation seeking not just in terms of girls but also in terms of people in general. Like I have this chip on my shoulder to where I feel like have to get my own social clique going, get hot girls, go to nice parties, and show em whose boss. Just getting laid isn't enough for me, I know that hasn't fixed the issue. I call it an obsession with being popular, being recognized as cool, and knowing that I am in a certain hierarchy alongside other men who are winners in this game.
The thing is, I know this isn't the answer since after school is over, people don't really care about the whole who's popular thing anymore (not only surprised but also blind sided by the fact they did in college to be honest). Even though it would seem the popularity contests are over now that we're no longer in school or college, I wish they weren't over so I could get another chance at them and really have my turn at the top of the hierarchy.
It's been an issue that's consumed me for quite some time since graduating college, been obsessed with the status and popularity thing which I know isn't healthy.
My question to you, Chris, is how did you recover? What advice would you give to guys who went through the same experience in college and want to recover to the point it doesn't really haunt them anymore?