Week 1: Day 1 (club): First exercise (say 'how are you?') to a bouncer provokes some anxiety but I told myself to follow the anixety and whenever I feel it try and smash it, not avoid it. Did a lot of the easier tasks in the first night. Making eye contact was difficult, not because of anixety just trying to get any girls' attention. Felt great at the end of the night and next day.
Day 2 (bar): sat alone, but managed to finish all the tasks except 'make eye contact 3 times', again hard to get attention.
Day 3 (superclub): Felt very anxious walking to the club amongst other people going there as I felt they were judging me for being alone. Kept running stoires in my head in case some asked me, such as 'My friends are inside/late/cancelled..' Wish I didn't have to do this and were more confident to not give a shit. Did last task, made eye contact a/b 5 times just by looking at girls long enough to get their attention.
Finsihed Week1 in three days, so I wanted to keep up momentum and start Week 2 the very next day,
Week 2: Day 4: Pumped self up to ask for the bouncer's name and introduce myself and shake hands, but the club was closed (sunday). immediate reaction was to get the train back home, but forced myself to go into a bar instead.
I go in, and it is crowded as hell. This triggers quite a bit of anxiety in me. I go to the restroom to plan my next move (either leave or do a task). Decide not to pussy out and do a task, but I cannot read the list b/c too many people are around and I don't want them to see the list of tasks. I order a drink, some guy tries to speak to me but I am pretty distant (should've joked with him and built social momentum, but at the time I just gave a short answer and looked away). I stand around, continuing to feel anxious b/c I'm afraid everyone is judging me for being there alone (or will do sooner or later if I stay there).
After I finish my (non-alcholoic) drink I head straight for the exit.
Felt like shit on the way home for being such a pussy. Afraid my SA is too high to do the 'Going out alone' program.
Tomorrow I plan to go out again and try and find an open club.
If anyone has any techniques for getting over the fear of being judged for being alone, then please share it would be greatly appreciated.
Day 2 (bar): sat alone, but managed to finish all the tasks except 'make eye contact 3 times', again hard to get attention.
Day 3 (superclub): Felt very anxious walking to the club amongst other people going there as I felt they were judging me for being alone. Kept running stoires in my head in case some asked me, such as 'My friends are inside/late/cancelled..' Wish I didn't have to do this and were more confident to not give a shit. Did last task, made eye contact a/b 5 times just by looking at girls long enough to get their attention.
Finsihed Week1 in three days, so I wanted to keep up momentum and start Week 2 the very next day,
Week 2: Day 4: Pumped self up to ask for the bouncer's name and introduce myself and shake hands, but the club was closed (sunday). immediate reaction was to get the train back home, but forced myself to go into a bar instead.
I go in, and it is crowded as hell. This triggers quite a bit of anxiety in me. I go to the restroom to plan my next move (either leave or do a task). Decide not to pussy out and do a task, but I cannot read the list b/c too many people are around and I don't want them to see the list of tasks. I order a drink, some guy tries to speak to me but I am pretty distant (should've joked with him and built social momentum, but at the time I just gave a short answer and looked away). I stand around, continuing to feel anxious b/c I'm afraid everyone is judging me for being there alone (or will do sooner or later if I stay there).
After I finish my (non-alcholoic) drink I head straight for the exit.
Felt like shit on the way home for being such a pussy. Afraid my SA is too high to do the 'Going out alone' program.
Tomorrow I plan to go out again and try and find an open club.
If anyone has any techniques for getting over the fear of being judged for being alone, then please share it would be greatly appreciated.