So I had a rather unpleasant experience tonight. My main (former main) girl came over to my place. We did the usual friends with benefits stuff: talk, eat, watch TV shows – it was great. Definitely worth the 5 dates it took to get her in the first place.
We are sitting in bed and I initiate things as always. She told me she wanted to ask me a question.
‘Are you sleeping with other girls also?’
I told her without hesitation yes, looking her dead in the eye.
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I knew she was going to ask that question, even before she came over. She had been acting strange lately, taking ages to respond and giving curt, non-emoji accompanied texts when she did respond.
At first I thought she had accepted the ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. After we met last Monday when I arrived in the country I basically made it impossible to meet again until a week later (following principle of NOT more than 1 meeting a week).
But then when I invited her over tonight she told me we should go out to a bar or something. I insisted we go to mine (gll principle: you should ALWAYS fuck her at every meeting). She agreed in the end.
I met her on tinder back in October and as I said it took multiple dates to seal the deal. The sex was absolutely fantastic, the girl although a ‘6.5’ in the face was more like an ‘8.5’ in the body. I was out of the country all of winter but we kept in touch by whatsapp every couple of days
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Needless to say I am shocked even though I knew it was very likely this would end things. She was out of my life 30 minutes later. She tried to probe me why I need to sleep with multiple girls but I told her not to ask questions she didn’t want to know the answer to. The truth was I didn’t know how to answer her.
What do you guys do in this kind of situation? If you have a very hot fuck buddy who you also get on well with as a friend who has sussed out that you are banging other girls…
Is honesty the best policy? I know ultimately it is because it saves us both pain in the long run (so really I answered my own question I guess) but what about you guys?
Is there a way this could be played out such that you successfully retain her whilst not hurting her in the long run?
We are sitting in bed and I initiate things as always. She told me she wanted to ask me a question.
‘Are you sleeping with other girls also?’
I told her without hesitation yes, looking her dead in the eye.
background
I knew she was going to ask that question, even before she came over. She had been acting strange lately, taking ages to respond and giving curt, non-emoji accompanied texts when she did respond.
At first I thought she had accepted the ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. After we met last Monday when I arrived in the country I basically made it impossible to meet again until a week later (following principle of NOT more than 1 meeting a week).
But then when I invited her over tonight she told me we should go out to a bar or something. I insisted we go to mine (gll principle: you should ALWAYS fuck her at every meeting). She agreed in the end.
I met her on tinder back in October and as I said it took multiple dates to seal the deal. The sex was absolutely fantastic, the girl although a ‘6.5’ in the face was more like an ‘8.5’ in the body. I was out of the country all of winter but we kept in touch by whatsapp every couple of days
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Needless to say I am shocked even though I knew it was very likely this would end things. She was out of my life 30 minutes later. She tried to probe me why I need to sleep with multiple girls but I told her not to ask questions she didn’t want to know the answer to. The truth was I didn’t know how to answer her.
What do you guys do in this kind of situation? If you have a very hot fuck buddy who you also get on well with as a friend who has sussed out that you are banging other girls…
Is honesty the best policy? I know ultimately it is because it saves us both pain in the long run (so really I answered my own question I guess) but what about you guys?
Is there a way this could be played out such that you successfully retain her whilst not hurting her in the long run?