Hi guys, haven't visited the forum in a while. Right now my life is better than ever before and I just wanted to share some positive stuff.
Recently I checked Jstone's log and it really inspired me. It is great that guys here post content like that cause it got me fired up as well.
I post this mostly to get back in the groove. I have surrounded myself with too much downer stuff and immersing myself in this forum is better because it is an island of awesomeness for me.
Story
Anyway. Despite having had a long dry spell, I can say that I think my life has never been a good as it is now, and I would have to give it mainly to 3 stuff. Fixing my professional / organizational skills, hardening up and mindset change.
Last 6 months were hard for me. I went homeless for a while, lost a job, went through some other really demanding ones, had a lot of financial issues. The good news is, once you go through that stuff nothing phases you. Recently my PC broke, my phone also, I lost my credit card, had a lot of work to catch up with, but to be honest it doesn't even bother me, because it is nothing compared to the shit I went through, even though this sort of stuff would have really made me worried a year ago.
I was forced to become really good with my professional skills and it did pay off. These days I can easily do stuff in a day that took me a week 9 months ago. Thanks to that I have job offers coming left and right. Right now I have offers to build 4 websites and doing some piece of program for some guys. It's really great.
In regards to my mindset shift, I realized one thing after I went to a party. When I was there I was surrounded by great looking guys. And yet I could bet my ass 90% do not get laid. At the end of the night, an acquaintance who is just normal looking got a babe to take home, and it was cute chick I kinda eyed before. Maybe it was because he approached her and gamed and no else wanted, or I suspect she already knew him from some social circle which is why she was so warm to him from the start.
And then it snapped. I realized I was subconsciously still blaming looks and stuff when in reality, looks mean jack shit if you don't approach. I thought I knew that, but I never completely believed in it. There was always a voice of doubt. And it's so stupid because I already look decent. That thing made me become a "gamer".
I don't care so much about looks anymore I will focus 90% of my effort on game from now on. It's one thing "to know" and another to really internalize that belief. I had a little voice in my head telling me that is not true. Now that voice is dead. I really believe consciously and sub-consciously that game is everything (once you have decent looks).
This is my advice to guys who believe they are ugly : no your not, lift some weights + get clothes and keep aproaching. The more you do this the less doubts you will have. But it will take a while to kill that inner voice telling you you are ugly and stuff. Also, get rid of depression and all of that sad shit won't sound true to you, trust me.
On top of that I realized my problem was I spent too much time immersed in my thoughts rather than living. I read too much news, I do too much intellectual stuff.
I stopped masturbating and watching porn for 2 weeks now and recently my libido shot and I read Jstone's log and it really got me into "time to get back in the game" mood. I remembered why I went down this path in the first place. My goal for 2017 will be therefore to find a consistent way to keep this mood.
As for how I am going now. I am keeping up with college stuff and working stuff on the side. I started doing PE again after I had to take a break due to surgery. I am planning to hit the gym again.
I started NoFap and NoPorn and feel great. I am not a cultist about it, but I notice benefits. Your motivation to approach will be lower after you masturbate and porn is just weird. I have less mood swings when I don't masturbate and it's easy to approach girls. I will keep this up.
On top of that I make it a goal to always be in mood in 2017. This requires to cut off news and similar stuff. I am planning to completely cut it off soon. It is a hard decision for me, so I will see how it goes. I will also see what else I can do to always be positive.
Just now I was an inch away from asking a girl out. I know I can do it. It was not anxiety. It was what Chris calls "killer instinct". I will work on using each opportunity to ask a girl out. I will try to develop killer instinct to be able to always pull the trigger. But not sure how to do it yet. Either specifically set my mind to it, or maybe become super horny (haven't been as of late). I know I can ask girls out, I did it before, I just need to get back in the right mood/mindset and use every opportunity.
Key takeaways :
- If you learn useful professional skills they will pay off. But you have to go hardcore. You can't do anything else for 6 months or more to really learn some particular skill, but it is worth it. Less approaching, partying and stuff. Just keep obsessed with this one thing for 6 months.
- If you think you are ugly you are probably wrong. I have seen my friend who is 5'6 get mad booty and he looks extremely average but he just approaches all the time. If you are depressed this is especially bad since you honestly think you are objectively ugly. It's bullshit. It's a new golden rule : if you think you are ugly , you're not. Just hit the gym and get right clothes to get "edge". It's one thing to "know" this and another to internalize this. Keep approaching and see for yourself. Keep improving non-stop.
- Things will get better. I am in my last year in college and honestly it is great. Everyone knows me, everyone wants to talk to you, people recognize you at parties, people are willing to help, freshmen ask questions. If you learned to organize yourself well the first 2 years, studying becomes a breeze, even in hard subjects. On top of that, I have less of a fear of losing reputation by approaching girls for example cause I know I won't be here for so long. Overall, it feels great to be an old timer. And I have an easier time finding job related to my studies.
- Reading news and intellectual stuff can get you depressed. If you an intellectual type like me, you will want to read news and write articles and stuff, which is ok. But if you immerse yourself too much you'll get depressed. I must make a conscious decision not to read or watch that sort of stuff anymore. But it's hard. If you have a similar problem consider that as well.
- Stopping porn and masturbation can be amazing. Your mood will be stable and you will have less anxiety approaching. I don't even have a strong desire for porn or masturbation. If you eliminate both, which is hard it first, you will have less desire for it in the future. Also I recover much quicker from PE.
- The most important thing is to keep your mood. Slight depression creeps unknowingly. You never notice how you become more depressed little by little. Being in high mood is hard but is worth it. Do anything possible to alwayws keep yourself in mood.
Goals for 2017
Become happier by
- not masturbating and watching porn
- stop reading news
- focus on the job offers I get
- maintain the same PE / gym routine as before
In conclusion . Never let your mood slip and keep in mind it is one thing to "know" what you read hear and another thing to truly internalize it.
You need hard experiences to grow. But you will feel better afterwards. After I survived losing a job and being homeless I am afraid of nothing.
Getting rid of doubts and small depressions comes with practice and age. If you keep doing what GLL says and never give up you will inevitably get what you want. With time, your mood and life will be better and you will fall less in small depressions. Just try to survive until and try to be in as good of a mood as you can.
Good luck mates. I'll try to focus more on this place. This is the only place that gets me back in the mood for game, especially reading other people's logs. I will do everything I can to stay in the right state of mind.
Recently I checked Jstone's log and it really inspired me. It is great that guys here post content like that cause it got me fired up as well.
I post this mostly to get back in the groove. I have surrounded myself with too much downer stuff and immersing myself in this forum is better because it is an island of awesomeness for me.
Story
Anyway. Despite having had a long dry spell, I can say that I think my life has never been a good as it is now, and I would have to give it mainly to 3 stuff. Fixing my professional / organizational skills, hardening up and mindset change.
Last 6 months were hard for me. I went homeless for a while, lost a job, went through some other really demanding ones, had a lot of financial issues. The good news is, once you go through that stuff nothing phases you. Recently my PC broke, my phone also, I lost my credit card, had a lot of work to catch up with, but to be honest it doesn't even bother me, because it is nothing compared to the shit I went through, even though this sort of stuff would have really made me worried a year ago.
I was forced to become really good with my professional skills and it did pay off. These days I can easily do stuff in a day that took me a week 9 months ago. Thanks to that I have job offers coming left and right. Right now I have offers to build 4 websites and doing some piece of program for some guys. It's really great.
In regards to my mindset shift, I realized one thing after I went to a party. When I was there I was surrounded by great looking guys. And yet I could bet my ass 90% do not get laid. At the end of the night, an acquaintance who is just normal looking got a babe to take home, and it was cute chick I kinda eyed before. Maybe it was because he approached her and gamed and no else wanted, or I suspect she already knew him from some social circle which is why she was so warm to him from the start.
And then it snapped. I realized I was subconsciously still blaming looks and stuff when in reality, looks mean jack shit if you don't approach. I thought I knew that, but I never completely believed in it. There was always a voice of doubt. And it's so stupid because I already look decent. That thing made me become a "gamer".
I don't care so much about looks anymore I will focus 90% of my effort on game from now on. It's one thing "to know" and another to really internalize that belief. I had a little voice in my head telling me that is not true. Now that voice is dead. I really believe consciously and sub-consciously that game is everything (once you have decent looks).
This is my advice to guys who believe they are ugly : no your not, lift some weights + get clothes and keep aproaching. The more you do this the less doubts you will have. But it will take a while to kill that inner voice telling you you are ugly and stuff. Also, get rid of depression and all of that sad shit won't sound true to you, trust me.
On top of that I realized my problem was I spent too much time immersed in my thoughts rather than living. I read too much news, I do too much intellectual stuff.
I stopped masturbating and watching porn for 2 weeks now and recently my libido shot and I read Jstone's log and it really got me into "time to get back in the game" mood. I remembered why I went down this path in the first place. My goal for 2017 will be therefore to find a consistent way to keep this mood.
As for how I am going now. I am keeping up with college stuff and working stuff on the side. I started doing PE again after I had to take a break due to surgery. I am planning to hit the gym again.
I started NoFap and NoPorn and feel great. I am not a cultist about it, but I notice benefits. Your motivation to approach will be lower after you masturbate and porn is just weird. I have less mood swings when I don't masturbate and it's easy to approach girls. I will keep this up.
On top of that I make it a goal to always be in mood in 2017. This requires to cut off news and similar stuff. I am planning to completely cut it off soon. It is a hard decision for me, so I will see how it goes. I will also see what else I can do to always be positive.
Just now I was an inch away from asking a girl out. I know I can do it. It was not anxiety. It was what Chris calls "killer instinct". I will work on using each opportunity to ask a girl out. I will try to develop killer instinct to be able to always pull the trigger. But not sure how to do it yet. Either specifically set my mind to it, or maybe become super horny (haven't been as of late). I know I can ask girls out, I did it before, I just need to get back in the right mood/mindset and use every opportunity.
Key takeaways :
- If you learn useful professional skills they will pay off. But you have to go hardcore. You can't do anything else for 6 months or more to really learn some particular skill, but it is worth it. Less approaching, partying and stuff. Just keep obsessed with this one thing for 6 months.
- If you think you are ugly you are probably wrong. I have seen my friend who is 5'6 get mad booty and he looks extremely average but he just approaches all the time. If you are depressed this is especially bad since you honestly think you are objectively ugly. It's bullshit. It's a new golden rule : if you think you are ugly , you're not. Just hit the gym and get right clothes to get "edge". It's one thing to "know" this and another to internalize this. Keep approaching and see for yourself. Keep improving non-stop.
- Things will get better. I am in my last year in college and honestly it is great. Everyone knows me, everyone wants to talk to you, people recognize you at parties, people are willing to help, freshmen ask questions. If you learned to organize yourself well the first 2 years, studying becomes a breeze, even in hard subjects. On top of that, I have less of a fear of losing reputation by approaching girls for example cause I know I won't be here for so long. Overall, it feels great to be an old timer. And I have an easier time finding job related to my studies.
- Reading news and intellectual stuff can get you depressed. If you an intellectual type like me, you will want to read news and write articles and stuff, which is ok. But if you immerse yourself too much you'll get depressed. I must make a conscious decision not to read or watch that sort of stuff anymore. But it's hard. If you have a similar problem consider that as well.
- Stopping porn and masturbation can be amazing. Your mood will be stable and you will have less anxiety approaching. I don't even have a strong desire for porn or masturbation. If you eliminate both, which is hard it first, you will have less desire for it in the future. Also I recover much quicker from PE.
- The most important thing is to keep your mood. Slight depression creeps unknowingly. You never notice how you become more depressed little by little. Being in high mood is hard but is worth it. Do anything possible to alwayws keep yourself in mood.
Goals for 2017
Become happier by
- not masturbating and watching porn
- stop reading news
- focus on the job offers I get
- maintain the same PE / gym routine as before
In conclusion . Never let your mood slip and keep in mind it is one thing to "know" what you read hear and another thing to truly internalize it.
You need hard experiences to grow. But you will feel better afterwards. After I survived losing a job and being homeless I am afraid of nothing.
Getting rid of doubts and small depressions comes with practice and age. If you keep doing what GLL says and never give up you will inevitably get what you want. With time, your mood and life will be better and you will fall less in small depressions. Just try to survive until and try to be in as good of a mood as you can.
Good luck mates. I'll try to focus more on this place. This is the only place that gets me back in the mood for game, especially reading other people's logs. I will do everything I can to stay in the right state of mind.