Last night was out in a large club in Asia. Got inside and was pretty empty, there were 2 girls seated at a table in the bottle service area looking at me, and the other 2 members of the table - guy and girl were standing on the other side facing the dance floor. It was one of my first approaches of the night and I was mainly focussed on warming up so I approached and sat down. It became apparent that their English wasn't great, however I was already there so thought I'd continue the convo to build my social momentum. The girls offered me a drink of which I declined, and I shook hands with the guy of the table who left us alone. A bouncer approached the girls, pointing at me, Didn't catch exactly he said but I assume he was asking them if they wanted me gone. They shook their heads and he went away. I continued the convo but could feel it fizzling out due to the language barrier and loud music and was going to politely eject shortly, however about 5 minutes after the bouncer left, he came back again grabbed me by my arm and pulled me up without saying a word. As I turned to walk away he pushed me in the back, a very cheap way of saying stay away I presume. It really hit me hard from an inner game perspective, as it was the first time ever that id felt that perhaps approaching girls was not a permitted thing to do. I've been rejected enough times by girls themselves but this was something else. Resultantly I had pretty low energy the rest of the night but still managed 3 makeouts from stifled Chodey dance floor game. However, id really appreciate some views on how to recover your state from something like this when infield. The cringeworthiness of being manhandled by a bouncer in front of everyone keeps playing over and over in my mind.
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