I'm Scared To Have Sex After Failing 8 Times? - by: CML1885

Have you ever been too nervous to have sex after going limp your first time? I have. In fact I've had sex with 4 different girls in the last year. Between those 4 girls, I've tried having sex 8 times altogether with them and I went limp without cumming every time. To emphasize how bad this is, I've never been able to stay hard enough to thrust into the girl. I've only been hard enough during handjobs, blowjobs, and when the girl's riding me. If that isn't bad enough, these failed encounters have caused me to be to scared of moving forward when I had girls over my apartment 2-3 different times. I literally had girls over at my place multiple times and we just cuddled in my bed. Not because the girl didn't want to have sex. But because I didn't want to look like a fool again. And I have definitely felt like a fool.

The issue isn't physical. I can jerk it all day just fine, but I'm having mental roadblocks in my head and i don't know how to overcome them. Through time I've slowly gotten better. The last time I had sex I was able to stay hard enough for the girl to ride me. But I couldn't thrust into her myself because I kept getting limp. Its great that I'm seeing improvement, but it shouldn't have taken this long. I don't know whats stopping me. Something about sex with a girl really brings up nervousness in me and its limiting me from having a good time. I'm talking to a girl on OKcupid right now who wants to have sex later and I don't want to look like a fool again. What do you think is going on in my mind or subconscious that is doing this to me? How can I stop it?