I know "Game" isn't real in the sense of shit-tests, IOI's, maintaining frame and all that baloney. Game is the stuff in between looking good and talking to girls - it's the part where you ask the girl to sleep with you in subvert ways. Back in 2013 I actually had Game believe it or not and I'm only starting to remember what that life was like - before I made the worst decision of my life and got into a relationship without prior experience,
I'm still at uni - I have plenty of chances to talk to hot girls. Just yesterday I was locked in a room with 2 hot blondes working on a group project. I was talking to them - I looked above average - they where enjoying talking to me - why no spontaneous threesome? No game.
LEVELS OF GAME
1. Nice guy game / no game - this is what I'm currently at.
This game basically doesn't exist. This is "Hi nice to meet you, nice whether aye? How's your project going? Okay cool nice to meet you too have a nice day". Without realising it this is what my game has become.
2. Teasing Game - inspired by GMAN
I feel like this is the easiest level of game to obtain.
Real life example: Yesterday I asked the girl what marks she gets. She shyly said she got all high distinctions.
I left it at that, but I realise I could have kept going now, and made it become more and more playful - eventually building this playful report.
3. Subvertly sexual game - Me in 2013
I'd say this is above average game. This is where you make a lot of sexual jokes and requires you to be quite ballsy I think to pull them off.
Real life examples:
This got a big laugh from the room and the girl changed her attitude towards me after that.
And my SA friends line.
Whenever a girl says "Fuck me!" in frustration without missing a beat he just says "okay".
4. Direct sexual game - All real players
I feel like this game is the game chris' uses when he essentially says "let's fuck".
"Hey sexy bitch![:)]( ":)")
" - stuff like that.
Real life example:
Requires a very big testicle or two imo. Only have done it when I'm drunk.
CULTIVATING GAME / INNER GAME
What do these types of game require? Confidence. The more confidence the higher up the game ladder you can go. I discovered yesterday I just barely have enough confidence to do teasing game atm. That's my plan - learn to tease - learn to subvertly be sexual - learn to directly be sexual.
I think the same thing that requires one to the AA program is what can lift the ballsiness of your game (I think at least).
1. The IDGAF attitude (thanks sassyMF)
I have felt this before too a long time a go. It's giving yourself permission to do whatever the fuck you want. It's giving yourself permission to not care about social reprucutions.
I think it requires a decent amount of confidence, but once you hit the threshold it's easy to turn on and keep it turned on. For me I notice the better my body gets, and the more martial arts I do, and the higher my grades are, and the better I look, the easier it is to do this.
Once you stop thinking "I'm not as good as them" and begin thinking "They're not as a good as me" (non-ego way) then yea it just unlocks this new world where you don't feel like being a follower any more.
I think the only way to cultivate it is self-affirmation and reminding yourself. Practise it in small situations (for example because of social anxiety I was afraid to turn the aircon on for the room full of 20 people, than just said fuck it IDGAF - small steps lol)
2. BE A FUCKING MAN - inspired b chris's video.
This really inspired me, but I have trouble holding onto the feeling that video gave me.
Chris's message. "There's no such thing as AA. Men talk to girls, boys don't"
How I interpret that beyond the original message is "There's no such thing as Anxiety. Men do what they want, boys don't"
It is giving yourself permission to do what ever you want. I think doing masculine things cultivates this. Lift weights, be a leader, achieve things that suprise yourself. Be the boss. You fucking got this brah. etc
Even to the point you don't feel anxious because you're just like "Lol anxiety? Fuck that I do what I want."
3. Ego detachment / Outcome Independence - inspired by terminator
The first 2. require a certain amount of bravery and confidence to accomplish. This one I feel let's you still feel like a piece of shit and get away with it.
The number 1 thing is to say the action is the goal not the outcome. This is basically the way the AA program works, but again is expandable. Like for instance going out. It's not about whether you pull, or people think you look good, or goes well / have a good time etc. Did you get out the door? Did you hop on the bus? Did you approach the venue? Did you walk inside. Each milestone is an achievement - where you almost confuse and delude your brain / ego to trick it into not worrying about what will happen or the consequences.
The other way I sometimes look at it is from an extremely objective, almost scientific viewpoint.
"Hypothesis: Is it possible to talk that girl over there? Well it's just a sequence of movements and sounds - it is possible, the subject is just not motivated to do so." I never used this to succesfully overcome a fear, but it does make me less anxious thinking about the action (like starting the AA).
For me having some simple "systems" in place and "mental goals" helps keep me motivated and happy. I'm probably wasting my modafinil buzz on this post (already wrote 3k words this morning though) .
I was starting to doubt the AA because I was already talking to girls and looking above average - ahhh now I realise, it's looks + approaching + a very basic concept of game = success with women. So while I'm doing the AA I can practise these basic tenants of game online dating and with girls at uni.
Cultivating inner game will help me complete AA and levelling up my game (I assume the same kind of Inner game is required for succesfully running business as well!)
I am very inexperienced and I know this site looks down on intellectual debate about games (rightfully so!) I still feel having a few basic axioms keeps me on track with my thoughts... (tease her, say something sexual)
gets a little out of hand when you're thinking (pull, deflect shit-test, time to push, neg her, pull again!, slut-shame, give her a high-five) ... never again.
Just as I finished this post something arrived in the mail Got my first accessory from China. I should start buying the second round, they take 16 days to get here. Cost me $2, what do you think?
I'm still at uni - I have plenty of chances to talk to hot girls. Just yesterday I was locked in a room with 2 hot blondes working on a group project. I was talking to them - I looked above average - they where enjoying talking to me - why no spontaneous threesome? No game.
LEVELS OF GAME
1. Nice guy game / no game - this is what I'm currently at.
This game basically doesn't exist. This is "Hi nice to meet you, nice whether aye? How's your project going? Okay cool nice to meet you too have a nice day". Without realising it this is what my game has become.
2. Teasing Game - inspired by GMAN
I feel like this is the easiest level of game to obtain.
Real life example: Yesterday I asked the girl what marks she gets. She shyly said she got all high distinctions.
Me; "Oh wow you're such a nerd"
Her: "haha I am not a nerd!"
Her: "haha I am not a nerd!"
I left it at that, but I realise I could have kept going now, and made it become more and more playful - eventually building this playful report.
3. Subvertly sexual game - Me in 2013
I'd say this is above average game. This is where you make a lot of sexual jokes and requires you to be quite ballsy I think to pull them off.
Real life examples:
Girl: "Oh so you do martial arts, you like real good at flipping people now?"
Me: "Good at flipping girls in bed"
Me: "Good at flipping girls in bed"
This got a big laugh from the room and the girl changed her attitude towards me after that.
Girl: "Yea I think that colour is better, it's a bit more dirty"
Me: "You like it dirty don't you?"
Me: "You like it dirty don't you?"
And my SA friends line.
Whenever a girl says "Fuck me!" in frustration without missing a beat he just says "okay".
4. Direct sexual game - All real players
I feel like this game is the game chris' uses when he essentially says "let's fuck".
"Hey sexy bitch
" - stuff like that.Real life example:
"So we going to your place or mine? *grin*" (we went to mine)
Requires a very big testicle or two imo. Only have done it when I'm drunk.
CULTIVATING GAME / INNER GAME
What do these types of game require? Confidence. The more confidence the higher up the game ladder you can go. I discovered yesterday I just barely have enough confidence to do teasing game atm. That's my plan - learn to tease - learn to subvertly be sexual - learn to directly be sexual.
I think the same thing that requires one to the AA program is what can lift the ballsiness of your game (I think at least).
1. The IDGAF attitude (thanks sassyMF)
I have felt this before too a long time a go. It's giving yourself permission to do whatever the fuck you want. It's giving yourself permission to not care about social reprucutions.
I think it requires a decent amount of confidence, but once you hit the threshold it's easy to turn on and keep it turned on. For me I notice the better my body gets, and the more martial arts I do, and the higher my grades are, and the better I look, the easier it is to do this.
Once you stop thinking "I'm not as good as them" and begin thinking "They're not as a good as me" (non-ego way) then yea it just unlocks this new world where you don't feel like being a follower any more.
I think the only way to cultivate it is self-affirmation and reminding yourself. Practise it in small situations (for example because of social anxiety I was afraid to turn the aircon on for the room full of 20 people, than just said fuck it IDGAF - small steps lol)
2. BE A FUCKING MAN - inspired b chris's video.
This really inspired me, but I have trouble holding onto the feeling that video gave me.
Chris's message. "There's no such thing as AA. Men talk to girls, boys don't"
How I interpret that beyond the original message is "There's no such thing as Anxiety. Men do what they want, boys don't"
It is giving yourself permission to do what ever you want. I think doing masculine things cultivates this. Lift weights, be a leader, achieve things that suprise yourself. Be the boss. You fucking got this brah. etc
Even to the point you don't feel anxious because you're just like "Lol anxiety? Fuck that I do what I want."
3. Ego detachment / Outcome Independence - inspired by terminator
The first 2. require a certain amount of bravery and confidence to accomplish. This one I feel let's you still feel like a piece of shit and get away with it.
The number 1 thing is to say the action is the goal not the outcome. This is basically the way the AA program works, but again is expandable. Like for instance going out. It's not about whether you pull, or people think you look good, or goes well / have a good time etc. Did you get out the door? Did you hop on the bus? Did you approach the venue? Did you walk inside. Each milestone is an achievement - where you almost confuse and delude your brain / ego to trick it into not worrying about what will happen or the consequences.
The other way I sometimes look at it is from an extremely objective, almost scientific viewpoint.
"Hypothesis: Is it possible to talk that girl over there? Well it's just a sequence of movements and sounds - it is possible, the subject is just not motivated to do so." I never used this to succesfully overcome a fear, but it does make me less anxious thinking about the action (like starting the AA).
For me having some simple "systems" in place and "mental goals" helps keep me motivated and happy. I'm probably wasting my modafinil buzz on this post (already wrote 3k words this morning though) .
I was starting to doubt the AA because I was already talking to girls and looking above average - ahhh now I realise, it's looks + approaching + a very basic concept of game = success with women. So while I'm doing the AA I can practise these basic tenants of game online dating and with girls at uni.
Cultivating inner game will help me complete AA and levelling up my game (I assume the same kind of Inner game is required for succesfully running business as well!)
I am very inexperienced and I know this site looks down on intellectual debate about games (rightfully so!) I still feel having a few basic axioms keeps me on track with my thoughts... (tease her, say something sexual)
gets a little out of hand when you're thinking (pull, deflect shit-test, time to push, neg her, pull again!, slut-shame, give her a high-five) ... never again.
Just as I finished this post something arrived in the mail Got my first accessory from China. I should start buying the second round, they take 16 days to get here. Cost me $2, what do you think?