I was reading Terminator's thread titled : How to Stop Hating women and user @Dekk posted a book called : Mode one by Alan Roger
Thing is I am an epitome of mode 3, it felt like reading about myself.
Let me quote the book (you can download full book here : forum.bodybuilding.com/attachment.php?at...1055621&d=1198995407)
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Ok it was hard to read because it's basically about me word to word.
But how can I use this information in my favour?
I can't just erase my insecurities. I can't erase memories , I can't change my self esteem and confidence by just deciding to do so.
I dont know what to do. Work on every insecurity I guess ? But it will take me years if I ever even finish and not kill myself before..
I am insecure about my looks , about my body , about my dick ,about my socioeconomic status, about my childhood. I think I'm a boring person and dont have anything to offer. I sincerely hate my mother because she used to beat me like a dog and tell me that I'm worthless all the time. I hate my father too because he allowed her to do so
I dont know how to help myself even though I know I have to do this.
Sometimes girls smile at me or give me IOIs but I think exactly what is laid out in this book :
I'm much worse than that. I had a girl that I liked actually fucking grab my hand and I fucking backed off. Yes really. I wanted her. But I backed off. Why ? Because I felt unworthy. I felt unworthy. I told myself that she would see how shitty I am and dump me real quick so it's even better to not start anything with her.
Sorry for writing a post that is that long , I hope somebody will read it.
Thing is I am an epitome of mode 3, it felt like reading about myself.
Let me quote the book (you can download full book here : forum.bodybuilding.com/attachment.php?at...1055621&d=1198995407)
"
Mode Three Behavior. I would have to say, that out of all the four modes of verbal communication, Mode Three is probably the most pathetic. At least when you exhibit Mode Two Behavior, you're usually confident enough to approach a woman. You just don't have the guts to really be yourself, and express your needs, desires, interests, and intentions in an upfront, straight-to-the-point manner. Many times, when you're in a Mode Three frame of mind, you're usually too timid to even APPROACH A WOMAN. Fear rides you like a horse. Just about everything about you is fear-based, and consequently, phony and wimpy. Mode Three Behavior is both weak AND ineffective.
Most men who exhibit Mode Three Behavior generally have a less-thanaverage degree of self-confidence and self-esteem. They are often perceived as either “shy,” “introverted,” excessively flattering, indecisive, “wishy washy,” and/or generally dishonest.
you have what I will call “The Timids”; “Timids” are those Mode Three men who have NO BALLS. They have so little confidence in their social skills with women, and such a low degree of courage, that they very rarely, if ever, even attempt to approach a woman. “Timids” are DREADFULLY AFRAID of rejection.
“Timids” are usually men who were probably considered "nerds" or "geeks" in high school and/or college. Their perception of THEMSELVES is so poor, and so weak, to the point that they really don't look at themselves as being romantically or sexually desirable in any way to women. Therefore, they just take themselves off of the playing field completely. They shy away from even conversing or interacting with women. The only women with whom they will halfway
interact with, are those women who basically approach them first, and express some sort of romantic and/or sexual interest in them first. Even then, they tend to harbor a "why would this woman be interested in ME?" attitude. Poor guys. "
Most men who exhibit Mode Three Behavior generally have a less-thanaverage degree of self-confidence and self-esteem. They are often perceived as either “shy,” “introverted,” excessively flattering, indecisive, “wishy washy,” and/or generally dishonest.
you have what I will call “The Timids”; “Timids” are those Mode Three men who have NO BALLS. They have so little confidence in their social skills with women, and such a low degree of courage, that they very rarely, if ever, even attempt to approach a woman. “Timids” are DREADFULLY AFRAID of rejection.
“Timids” are usually men who were probably considered "nerds" or "geeks" in high school and/or college. Their perception of THEMSELVES is so poor, and so weak, to the point that they really don't look at themselves as being romantically or sexually desirable in any way to women. Therefore, they just take themselves off of the playing field completely. They shy away from even conversing or interacting with women. The only women with whom they will halfway
interact with, are those women who basically approach them first, and express some sort of romantic and/or sexual interest in them first. Even then, they tend to harbor a "why would this woman be interested in ME?" attitude. Poor guys. "
Ok it was hard to read because it's basically about me word to word.
But how can I use this information in my favour?
I can't just erase my insecurities. I can't erase memories , I can't change my self esteem and confidence by just deciding to do so.
I dont know what to do. Work on every insecurity I guess ? But it will take me years if I ever even finish and not kill myself before..
I am insecure about my looks , about my body , about my dick ,about my socioeconomic status, about my childhood. I think I'm a boring person and dont have anything to offer. I sincerely hate my mother because she used to beat me like a dog and tell me that I'm worthless all the time. I hate my father too because he allowed her to do so
I dont know how to help myself even though I know I have to do this.
Sometimes girls smile at me or give me IOIs but I think exactly what is laid out in this book :
are those women who basically approach them first, and express some sort of romantic and/or sexual interest in them first. Even then, they tend to harbor a "why would this woman be interested in ME?" attitude
I'm much worse than that. I had a girl that I liked actually fucking grab my hand and I fucking backed off. Yes really. I wanted her. But I backed off. Why ? Because I felt unworthy. I felt unworthy. I told myself that she would see how shitty I am and dump me real quick so it's even better to not start anything with her.
Sorry for writing a post that is that long , I hope somebody will read it.